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    Need Advice

    My girlfriend of about 7 months is having a manic episode. She has had one before, and was institutionalized against her will. She holds a serious grudge and seems pretty traumatized about that experience, as she was sedated against her will and kept in solitary confinement for mooning a camera.

    Last week her mother took her in again to the hospital as she was visiting her, but she was released. She has been drinking a LOT and taking whatever substances she can find, but generally just alcohol and weed.

    She has been doing very strange things and clearly has minor psychosis. She is looking at this as a spiritual experience and not something that is wrong with her, but rather something that is good for her and makes her special. She got a loan from her mom to get back on her feet, and spent the whole thing VERY frivolously in about a week and a half (I mean, giving people 80 dollar tips several times a day, buying crazy amounts of things in fancy stores, etc).

    Our friends are all hippie types and are pretty amused at this point, although they were alarmed and scared at first. Everyone likes to drink a lot and her house-mates drink every day and there is always liquor around. I’m worried about her, but she definitely won’t listen to me when I try to talk to her. She just says, “you don’t understand.”

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    Quote Originally Posted by pollekjames View Post
    My girlfriend of about 7 months is having a manic episode. She has had one before, and was institutionalized against her will. She holds a serious grudge and seems pretty traumatized about that experience, as she was sedated against her will and kept in solitary confinement for mooning a camera.

    Last week her mother took her in again to the hospital as she was visiting her, but she was released. She has been drinking a LOT and taking whatever substances she can find, but generally just alcohol and weed.

    She has been doing very strange things and clearly has minor psychosis. She is looking at this as a spiritual experience and not something that is wrong with her, but rather something that is good for her and makes her special. She got a loan from her mom to get back on her feet, and spent the whole thing VERY frivolously in about a week and a half (I mean, giving people 80 dollar tips several times a day, buying crazy amounts of things in fancy stores, etc).

    Our friends are all hippie types and are pretty amused at this point, although they were alarmed and scared at first. Everyone likes to drink a lot and her house-mates drink every day and there is always liquor around. I’m worried about her, but she definitely won’t listen to me when I try to talk to her. She just says, “you don’t understand.”
    Pollekjames, I'll be frank. From everything you describe, it seems to me that your girlfriend has very serious problems. First of all, there is not such thing as a “minor psychosis.” Thats akin to a woman saying, “I’m just a little bit pregnant.” In other words, psychotic is psychotic and pregnant is pregnant. Also, psychosis carries with it such things as loss of reality, delusional thinking and, sometimes, hallucinations.

    The fact that she was hospitalized at all indicates that she was either suicidal, homicidal or a public nuisance at the time. No one likes to be hospitalized but it does not happen against someone’s will unless things are extremely serious.

    Also, “solitary confinement” was probably the result of much more disruptive behavior than mooning the camera. It appears that your girlfriend minimizes or is not aware of her behavior and the effect it has on other people.

    The notion that being in a psychosis is a spiritual experience is nothing new. There is nothing wrong with a psychotic person believing that as long as they, as I indicated above, are not suicidal, homicidal or a public nuisance (yelling in the streets in the middle of the night, every night, etc). People have a right to think what they want as long as they are not bothering others about it.

    All the spending that you describe is symptomatic of a Bipolar Disorder. It appears that her ability to function at work, home and among people, is impaired and, therefore, a serious concern to those she loves.

    Given her psychiatric condition, drinking and using other drugs are the worst possible things she can do. They worsen her condition and will lead to future hospitalizations.

    In my opinion, she is not a good choice for a girlfriend. I say that not because she has a mental illness but because she takes no responsibility for it.



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    In my opinion, she is not a good choice for a girlfriend. I say that not because she has a mental illness but because she takes no responsibility for it.



    OUCH! THATS GOTTA HURT. But she's right. 7 months is long enough...

    You dont wanna get stuck!

    Sorry Man

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