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Thread: HOW TO: Addiction Recovery

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    HOW TO: Addiction Recovery

    You may think addiction recovery happens once you stop using your drug(s) of choice; no, sadly, that is not recovery in the true sense of the word.

    You recover when you create a new life that does not include using. If you don’t create a totally new life for yourself, then all the factors that brought you to your addiction will – no matter how hard you try – will eventually catch up with you again.

    That doesn’t mean you have to change everything in your life. But there are a few things and behaviors that have been getting you into trouble, and they will continue to get you into trouble until you let them go. The more you try to hold onto your old life in recovery, the less well you will do. Bottom line, your success depends on changing these behaviors – like your life depends on it – and it does.

    Here are the three most common things that people need to change in order to achieve recovery.

    1. Avoid High-Risk Situations
    Some common high-risk situations are described by the acronym, HALT:
    Hungry
    Angry
    Lonely
    Tired


    Most people find that, by the end of a long day, that is when they are the weakest. Your strongest cravings usually occur during that time. Why is that? You’re probably hungry because you haven’t eaten well. You may be angry because you had a rough day at work. Maybe your commute was frustrating. You may feel lonely because you’re isolated – not necessarily because you’re alone. You’re tired. No wonder those cravings kick in around that time!
    High-risk situations could also be generated by people, places, and things. People, meaning, the people who are associated with your using, or people you’re fighting with, or party with, or even people who encourage you to use either directly or indirectly. Places, meaning, where you get your drugs or alcohol, and where you use. Things, meaning, things that remind you of your using.

    Can you avoid all these high-risk situations? Of course not! But if you're aware of them, they won't catch you off guard, and you can prevent little craving from turning into major urges.

    Take better care of yourself. Eat a healthier lunch so you're not as hungry at the end of the day. Join a 12 step group so that you don't feel isolated. Learn how to relax so that you can let go of your anger and resentments. Develop better sleep habits so that you're less tired.

    Avoid your drinking friends, your favorite bar, and having alcohol in the house. Avoid people who you used cocaine with, driving by your dealer's neighborhood, and cocaine paraphernalia. Recovery isn't about one big change. It's about lots of little changes. Avoiding those high-risk situations helps you create a new life where it's easier to not use.

    Make a list of your high-risk situations. Addiction is sneaky. Sometimes you won't see your high-risk situations until you're right in the middle of one. That's why it's important that you learn to look for them. Make a list of your high-risk situations and keep it with you. Go over the list with someone in recovery so that you can spot any situations that you might have missed. Make the list and keep it with you. Some day that list may save your life.

    2. Learn to Relax

    There are only a few reasons why people use drugs and alcohol. They use to escape, relax, and reward themselves. In other words, people use drugs and alcohol to relieve tension.

    The first rule of recovery is that you must change your life. What do you need to change? If you understood the previous paragraph, then you need to change the way you relieve tension. Everyone needs to escape, relax, and reward themselves. Those are essential coping skills for a happy life. But addicts don't know how to do those things without using.

    If you manage to stop using for a while, but don't learn how to relax, your tension will build until you'll have to relapse just to escape again. Tension and the inability to relax are the most common causes of relapse.

    Learning to relax will help. Relaxation changes lives. There is only one reason why people don't relax – because they think they're too busy to relax. It goes something like this, "I know it makes sense, but I've got so many other things I have to do."

    Ask yourself how much time you spend on your addiction. If you add up all the time it takes to get your drug, use it, deal with its consequences, and plan your next relapse, you'll realize that relaxing for twenty to forty minutes a day is a bargain.

    Relaxation is not an optional part of recovery. It's essential to recovery. There are many ways to relax. They range from simple techniques like going for a walk, to more structured techniques like meditation.

    Meditation is an important part of that mix because the simple techniques don't always work. If you're under a lot of stress, you may need something more reliable like meditation. Use any of these techniques, or any combination. But do something every day to relax, escape, reward yourself, and turn off the chatter in your mind.

    Numerous studies have proven that relaxation reduces the use of alcohol, tobacco, and marijuana.

    3. Be Honest

    An addiction requires lying. You have to lie about getting your drug, using it, hiding its consequences, and planning your next relapse. An addiction is full of lying. By the time you've developed an addiction, lying comes easily to you. After a while you get so good at lying that you end up lying to yourself. That's why addicts don't know who they are or what they believe in.

    The other problem with lying is that you can't like yourself when you lie. You can't look yourself in the mirror. Lying entraps you in your addiction. The more you lie, the less you like yourself, which makes you want to escape, which leads to more using and more lying.

    Nothing changes, if nothing changes. Ask yourself this: will more lying, more isolating, and more of the same make you feel better? The expression in AA is – nothing changes if nothing changes. If you don't change your life, then why would this time be any different? You need to create a new life where it's easier to not use.

    Recovery requires complete honesty. You must be one-hundred percent completely honest with the people who are your supports: your family, your doctor, your therapist, the people in your 12 step group, and your sponsor. If you can't be completely honest with them, you won't do well in recovery.

    When you're completely honest you don't give your addiction room to hide. When you lie you leave the door open to relapse.
    One mistake people make in the early stages of recovery is they think that honesty means being honest about other people. They think they should share what's "wrong" with other people. But recovery isn't about fixing other people. It's about fixing yourself.

    Stick with your own recovery. Focusing on what you don't like about others is easy because it deflects attention from yourself.
    Honesty won't come naturally in the beginning. You've spent so much time learning how to lie that telling the truth, no matter how good it is for you, won't feel natural.

    You'll have to practice telling the truth a few hundred times before it comes a little easier. In the beginning, you'll have to stop yourself as you're telling a story, and say, "now that I think about it, it was more like this..."

    Show common sense. Not everybody is your best friend. And not everybody will be glad to know that you have an addiction or that you're doing something about it.

    There may be some people who you don't want to tell about your recovery. But don't be reluctant to tell the people close to you about your recovery. You should never feel ashamed that you're doing something about your addiction.


    ~4tRACY
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    Changing Your Life

    Your addiction has given you the opportunity to change your life. Changing your life is what makes recovery both difficult and rewarding. Recovery is difficult because you have to change your life, and all change is difficult, even good change. Recovery is rewarding because you get the chance to change your life.

    Most people sleepwalk through life. They don't think about who they are or what they want to be, and then one day they wake up and wonder why they aren't happy.

    If you use this opportunity for change, you'll look back and think of your addiction as one of the best things that ever happened to you. People in recovery often describe themselves as grateful addicts.

    Why would someone be grateful to have an addiction? Because their addiction helped them find an inner peace and tranquility that most people crave. Recovery can help you change your life.

    After 5 years of abstinence relapse is rare.

    A study followed 268 Harvard University undergraduates, and 456 non-delinquent inner-city adolescents. The men were followed every two years by questionnaire, and every 5 years by physical examination. At some point during their lives, 55 (21%) of the college men and 150 (33%) of the inner-city men met the criteria for alcohol addiction. The study concluded that after 5 years of abstinence relapse is rare.

    Here's more information: https://www.drugabuse.gov/publications/drugs-brains-behavior-science-addiction/treatment-recovery


    ~4tRACY
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    THANK YOU, TRACY, THIS WAS VERY GOOD.

    I'm going to the library tomorrow and printing this off, plus a couple other posts in this forum. Great stuff!

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